Navigating Changed Relationships for Returned Missionaries.

As you settle back into your life at home, one of the most significant and sometimes challenging aspects is reconnecting with friends and family. While you’ve been away, things may have changed, and it’s natural to find that some relationships have evolved. Let’s talk about how you can approach these changed dynamics with patience and open communication.

Understanding the Dynamics of Changed Relationships.

Firstly, it’s important to acknowledge that change is a natural part of life. While you were away on your mission, both you and your loved ones were growing and evolving in different ways. It’s possible that the points of connection you had before may have shifted. This doesn’t mean that these relationships are any less valuable; they just might need some readjusting.

Tips for Reconnecting with Friends and Family.

  1. Approach with Patience: Understand that it may take time to reconnect. Both you and your loved ones have had different experiences that shape your current perspectives.
  2. Open Communication: Share your experiences, but also be a good listener. Be open to hearing about the changes and experiences your friends and family have gone through in your absence.
  3. Set Realistic Expectations: Accept that some relationships may not return to what they were, and that’s okay. Focus on building new connections based on who you and your loved ones are now.
  4. Plan Low-Pressure Meetings: Start with casual, low-pressure settings to catch up. Coffee dates, walks in the park, or small group gatherings can be great starting points.
  5. Be Open About Your Feelings: If you’re feeling disconnected or misunderstood, express your feelings honestly but gently. Chances are, your loved ones might be feeling the same way.
  6. Respect Their Growth: Just as you have grown and changed, so have your friends and family. Show interest and respect for the new perspectives and life changes they’ve experienced.
  7. Find Common Ground: While you may have new interests and views, look for common ground that still exists. Shared hobbies, mutual friends, or family traditions can be good starting points.
  8. Create New Memories: Engage in activities together to create new memories. This can help in strengthening bonds and moving the relationship forward.
  9. Utilize Technology: If physical meetings are challenging, use technology to stay connected. Regular video calls or message exchanges can keep the relationship active.
  10. Seek Support if Needed: If you find reconnecting particularly challenging, consider seeking support from a counselor or a support group for returning missionaries.

The Importance of Patience and Open Communication.

Patience and open communication are key in navigating these changed relationships. Understand that just as you’ve had a life-altering experience, your friends and family have also had their own journeys during your absence. Patience allows for the space and time needed for everyone to adjust and find their footing in the relationship again.

Open communication is crucial for bridging any gaps that may have formed. Share your experiences, but also be genuinely curious about their lives. This two-way dialogue creates a mutual understanding and respect for each other’s experiences.


Reconnecting with friends and family after a mission can be a journey filled with rediscovery and growth. Embrace this process with an open heart, understanding that change is a natural part of life and relationships. By approaching your loved ones with patience, open communication, and a willingness to understand and accept the changes, you can foster deeper and more meaningful connections. Remember, the bonds you share with your friends and family are unique and valuable, and with time and effort, they can continue to be a source of support and joy in your life.

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